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Zero to Hate in Two Seconds

I struggled with whether I should even attempt to tackle this topic. But Ozzie Guillen and his shenanigans are just too juicy to pass up. For those of you who could give two shits about the wide world of sports (and I applaud you) or have been holed up in your parent’s dark and dank basement playing Call of Duty XVIIIXX, he basically flipped the proverbial bird at the entire Cuban community of Miami (which is pretty much the entire community of Miami) the other day. He didn’t mean to. He’s just old, and cranky, and usually only half sober. But he essentially gave a friendly little shout-out to Senior Fidel Castro. Yeah, not good.

The community is in an uproar; there’s been picketing at the stadium, calls for his resignation, lots of angry stomping and yelling and fist pounding. People are trying to boycott the Marlins. It’s freakin’ nuts down there – and it’s not like they need any more drama in that crazy city. But here’s what I’m hung up on…

Can we just ease up on the hate a little bit?

I understand you’re angry – it’s an insult to your strife. In some cases, it’s a veritable spit on your ancestors’ graves. And that would make me angry too. But let it go, man. Why do we jump so quickly to anger and protest and yelling? That man is entitled to his opinion – irrespective of how stupid it is. It’s called diversity, yo. Diversity of thought. You don’t like it, that’s cool. You’re lashing out and condeming a man for expressing an opinion in a country where the freedom to express an opinion is quite literally the essence of who we are. And while your freedom to refute his opinion is part of that essence, you undermine that freedom when you make a big spectacle out of it; when you start calling names; when you make personal character attacks; when you refuse to listen, to forgive, to forget, and to move on.

We’re allowed to have different opinions in the workplace and we’re (usually) allowed to disagree vehemently. But there comes a point where vehemence starves constructive dissent of its beauty. We can’t harness, leverage, or exploit the power of constructive dissent when every one is yelling at one another. There’s something to be learned from and socially gained from this situation. But that has to unfold in a respectful and thoughtful fashion…with patience. We go from ‘zero’ to ‘hate’ in this country like a fine tuned Maserati. And what we really need to do in order to get a bit more productive for ourselves and for those who follow us is to learn to enjoy the ride a bit.

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  • lynhoyt

    What does the role of media play in this power of hate when the cord is struck so publicly by a person in a leadership position?

  • hrfishbowl

    yep, the media loves hate – they love to follow it, and they love to create it. but as long as we let them, they will. we have to stop blaming the media too and start taking responsibility as an intellectual people who are capable of making decisions on our own without having to be told by the constant barrage of cable crap on how to live our lives or why we should be incensed. we empower the media to act this way…we have to take that back.

  • http://twitter.com/new_resource Chris Fields

    Now Charlie, you know I love ya…But I’ma have to disagree…Yes he’s entitled to his opinion but its too much of this insensitivity, we are cutting too many breaks for historical racial oppression, dictators and organization discrimination. Yeah I went there. We need to be more sensitive to each others struggle, heartache, pain, death and experiences. I can’t help but equate this to my struggles as black man. Okay okay okay what if Ozzie had said he respects Hilter? IDK, man Ozzie should have saw that coming, and he’s lucky to get a 5 game suspension in my opinion.

  • hrfishbowl

    chris, you know i love ya…but I’ma have to disagree. in the spirit of this post, though, i’m going to do so respectfully and thoughtfully. i’m not going to disagree by pounding my fist and calling you names or challenging your intellect. i’m not going to go and call for your immediate resignation and public flogging. i’m just going to nod my head and ponder your opinion for a moment or three. i’m going to let it sink in. i’m going to see if i could walk a mile in your shoes. i’m going to consider whether i can appreciate where you’re coming from. and when that’s done, i’m going to see if there’s anything we can potentially learn from our differences. and even if there isn’t anything to gain, i’m not going to hate you for your diversity of thought. i’m going to respect it.

    hate doesn’t do anyone any good. and going their right away, almost by default, is nothing but counter-productive. that’s really all i’m sayin’.

  • Brian Grabowski

    Then again, if your “sport” is American Politics, “zero to hate” in two seconds is probably not par for the course. Disagreement at the candidate, or the facebook level, seems to have little tolerance of diversity, is highly personal, and mostly negative. Unfortunately, this boorish behavior seems to bleed into the rest of our lives more than not. Just read a post by some well-meaning Deloitte alum about “how to disagree”. Bland enough stuff, and mostly correct. But outside of the corporate boardroom, consultant/client relationship, and perhaps sales meeting, it’s interesting to me how rarely tact and “rules of order” are even considered these days. Your post is good. Your points are valid. But the horse is way out of the barn on this one…